Maybe you are one of of "these" women,(sorry!) maybe you know
We could ask something like "How has your husband been with the helping out now that things are calming down"? Response being "He's just amazing!".
Or what about the mommies who "yell" at their children with a calm, quiet, perfect tone and a smile on their face? The ones who would NEVER raise their voice even a little bit, to their child?
I realize that if a complete stranger, or say your grandma was to ask, it's simply easier to say "perfect or great". My problem is when it's your friend asking, or another mommy! Why aren't we truthful with each other, why don't we use each other as support, as someone to lean on?
AREN'T WE ON THE SAME TEAM???!!
According to a Neumums survey of about 5,000 moms, many parents are less than truthful when it comes to chatting with other moms. Here are some of their lies:
According to a Netmums survey of about 5,000 moms, many parents are less than truthful when it comes to chatting with other moms. Here are some of their lies:
* They say they are coping well, but 69 percent were less than truthful.
* They say they are coping financially, but 46 percent were less than truthful.
* They claim to spend more time with their kids than they do (20.6 percent).
* They say their kids watch less TV than they do (23 percent).
* They lie about their child's great appetite (17 percent)
* And finally, 13 percent say they are having more sex than they are.
Does this seem crazy to anyone else? I mean, sure, maybe I'm a little too open sometimes. I figure though, if my girlfriend asks how things are going, she cares. She wants to know She's going to hear!! Besides, she's another mommy, maybe she can give me some advice or suggestions. Maybe she can relate. Maybe I will even make her feel better!
Do you think that we as women are afraid to show our weakness first? Maybe we don't want to be the first to admit that this isn't what we thought we signed up for? That some days we just want to throw in the towel? That parenting is hard!!!!
Again, it probably all goes back to guilt, and looking weak. Do I look weak if I admit it? OR... are the ones that CAN'T admit it the weak ones?? I'm sure everyone views it differently.
One thing I do know though, is that the moms that present themselves as "Having it all together", and that have these "Perfect Lives", do a really great job at making me feel even worse than I already did. And truthfully, it makes me not want to be around them. When I finally get some time away or out, I don't want to be surrounded with smiling, perfectly happy mommies with no care in the world.Not that I want to be around someone miserable,, just someone who is "real"! Perfect people just make me feel like I have to be the same, like I have to compete... unfortunately, that's just not me!
Is that what motherhood/friendships have turned into? A competition?? If so,, it's a game I'm not willing to pay. That is after all why I am on here. To "confess my sins", to "admit my imperfections".
Cheers to all of you out there that are like me! (HA! I make myself sound so perfect. Good thing you all know the truth!) To all of you "perfect" mommies out there,, we love you too, but hopefully after reading this, you will find it in yourself to start be a little less "Perfect", for the sake of the rest of us!!
Thanks in advance...lol Have a great weekend ladies!
BRAD PAISLEY HERE I COME!!! I'll touch base on the weekend!!