"What a great day", "lovin' my life", "has the best husband in the world"..... There certainly are a lot of happy people on Facebook, aren't there??
Does anyone else notice that when it comes to Facebook, it is either this extreme (HAPPY!), or the complete opposite? (MISERABLE!) This what we find so exciting? This is what we can't go an hour without getting on to see? A bunch of miserable, negative grumps or a whole lot of annoyingly happy people flaunting their perfect life!! (I say "flaunting" in the nicest possible way)
Facebook is huge! So huge that people check it while driving, or while waiting for appointments. Heck, people are even getting in trouble at work for being on it too much or while they're supposed to be working! It's usually the first thing that I do when I get a chance to sit every morning!
My question is this. What is so appealing about it? What draws us back? Are we just that nosy? Are we wanting to live through others lives? Is it our way of "staying connected" when we're trapped in the house every day? As if we don't have enough going on, not we have Facebook upsetting us!
Do any of you ever find yourself wondering what someone "meant" with one of their status' or with something they said on yours or someone else's wall? I have a friend who finds herself bothered that her "friends" don't comment on pictures of her kids. I can relate to that in a way. All of these issues, yet we all still love it!
I've gotten a lot better, I try not to let the little things on there bother me, and I try to use it strictly for entertainment. I do have a lot of girlfriends that get pretty upset over stuff that goes on, on there. It's really too bad.
After one of my previous posts, I was talking to a friend through email. She emailed me and told me that i made a good point about Facebook and how she felt that so many times, it can drag you down, rather than lift you up! She made a very good point of saying that she feels it is Toxic!!
Again! I love Facebook more than anyone around, I spend way too much time on it, I can probably seem annoyingly happy, and downright grumpy on it, I post pictures and lots of inspirational quotes. I am definitely not coming down on anyone.. I'm sure that no one posts things online with the intentions of hurting someone. (for the most part)
Lets think about it though.
Lets think about the girls and guys who are so desperately searching to find "the right one". They have to hear about engagements, see pics of rings, stare at wedding photos..
Lets think about the people who didn't land great paying jobs or who struggle from month to month to get the bills paid.. They stare at pictures of fancy new cars, beautiful new homes, 60' plasma tvs', trips to Europe or the Caribbean.
Lets think about all of the girls who desperately want a child and can't have one. They have to read status' of people that are just finding out they're pregnant, they have to look at ultrasound pictures and all of the newborn shots.
Finally,, lets think about all of the mommies out there, new and old, who just can't seem to get it together, or who are suffering from postpartum depression, the mommies that are already beating themselves up for things that they aren't doing.. They're looking at pictures or these happy families, day trips, playgroups, reading status' about perfect lives...
I think that Toxic is the perfect way to describe what we are doing to ourselves...
On the other hand, I don't think that people should have to stop posting pictures of their children,engagement rings, weddings etc.. I don't think that they should stop putting on status' of how happy they are. They shouldn't have to feel like they can't be happy or proud, or excited.
What is my point then?? I guess I'm not really sure!!! lol
I guess the thing that I struggle with the most, is this: Are these people really as happy as they portray?Are they as perfect as they portray? Maybe some of them are, maybe some of them are trying to convince everyone else and themselves that they are. Who would ever really know.
Do you think that in todays society, we're considered to be weak if we show our faults? Are we weak if we have a bad day/week or if we're anything less than perfect? Is it social networks that make us feel this way? Is that why so many people would rather just "be" perfect?
Again, maybe some of them really are just perfect!!! (which is awesome for them) I realize that a lot of people just don't feel comfortable sharing negative things, they don't like getting too personal.
I'm sure that many would be mortified at the thought of getting as personal as I do on here... but at the same time, Facebook can't get much more personal.
I read day after day (after day) status' of girls saying that they are taking a break from Facebook, or that they're signing off, that they won't be around for a few days. They always come back!! Why do we keep coming back??
I'm hoping to get some feedback on today's post. I really am curious what all of you think about this subject. I've talked to enough people that I know I'm not alone..
I really don't know what the "point" of my blog is, I don't really have a conclusion,, i guess today was just more of a venting session.
A lot of you have talked with me about Facebook and the negative effect it can have on our emotions so I thought that I would tackle the subject.It was harder than I thought! As I finish up typing, I think that I have more questions than I started with!! Hopefully you got something out of it!
See you all on Facebook later!!! LOL