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Monday, April 25, 2011

Have a Heart!

Okay, so I was going to do my next post on what a donkey my husband was last week. Unfortunately (for you guys) he was so awesome on the weekend that I just don't have the heart to get on here and bash him today.

Instead, I'm going to post on a subject that a friend of mine asked me to cover. This topic is near and dear to her and she wanted to see what other mothers feel on the situation. This won't be a long post because I'm hoping to basically just open up a discussion on the subject.

The topic??
What are your thoughts, what are your feelings? Have you ever even thought about it?
Obviously it's not something that we want to think about it, but let's face it, it's reality, and any of us could be put in the situation that we are forced to make a very tough decision..

I can honestly say that I had never given it much thought until I heard that my friend had a family member going through problems and needed a liver.
I think my initial thoughts were "NO WAY"!! No way would I sign a card, paper, or anything allowing someone to take my babies organs out of them,,, NO WAY!!! Selfish? Maybe! I think mostly though, that is my fear taking over. The fear of not wanting to ever think about something so horrible.

Not too long ago, General Hospital (the soap opera) covered this subject. One of the little boys on the show was hit by a car and was brain dead. At the same time (I know,,it's a soap opera) another couple found out that their little girl had cancer and needed two new kidneys.. Long story short, the mother of the little boy wanted nothing to do with discussing donating her little guys organs, but they convinced her that she would be saving another child's life and saving other parents from going through the horrible grief that they were going through at the time.. She finally agreed to donate the kidneys.
I think that it was at this point that the whole organ donation thing started to make sense to me.

I think the hard part is imagining having to give your child's organs to someone else. The easy part though, is imagining the joy you'd feel if it was your child that was accepting the organs... receiving the gift of life...

I haven't gone to the extremes of filling out donor cards or anything, but I know what I would do if I was ever faced with such an awful decision to make.... I think......

I know that this is a very sensitive issue to discuss, but both my friend and myself are hoping to get an idea of what all of you mommies think about the subject!!
Let the discussion begin!!


Sadie said...

As difficult as it would be I would donate my children's or my own organs without a second thought. My husband's own sister died when she was 13 after complications from an organ donation. This was in the 80's when organ transplants, especially in children, were a new medical procedure. She was sick for a very long time prior to her transplant and lived for a full-year post transplant. It will never be known, but had she received that organ sooner perhaps she would have lived longer or even survived. Nothing would ease the pain of losing a child, but a least another family might be touched by a tiny ray of hope.

Mrs.Moose said...

Thanks for doing this Sarah! If any of you mommie's haven't thought of this please do, and talk about it with your spouse. Not even just about your kids, but you and your wishes aswell. If you haven't filled out your donor papers, PLEASE DO.
I never want anything bad to happen to my children (or anyone else) but if it did I think I could find some comfort in the fact that my loved one was able to save anothers.
I know for a fact that it is not easy being on the receiving end of organ donations, and how hard it is for the recipient and their families to accept that the may rejoice as someone else mourns.

~ *Sandra* ~ said...

Great topic - definitely gets you thinking. As much as I have a fear of "jinxing" myself in many different scenarios, this isn't one of them.
Part of me actually believes that by signing that donation card, you are putting that positivity out into the world. That you are willing to be generous if, god for bid, life bites you in the ass.
And if life is cruel to another family, maybe they will be generous and help you, should your child need it.

Sarah said...

Very good point Sandra!! It's almost like putting "good karma" out there.. like if you buy an umbrella for a wedding, you won't need it, but if you don't bother, it will rain for sure!! I think that my fear for that situation will not allow me to think about it, and almost makes me feel defensive,, like the "no way!"
I have to smarten up and put some positivity out there!!
I'm glad this topic means so much to so many... maybe through the blog we can get a couple of donor cards signed!!

Mandy said...

Great topic Sarah!
My donor cards have been filled out for a long time now. God forbid anything happen to my girls, but if something did, I could find comfort in knowing that myself/my children could safe someone else's life (and many lives connected to them).

Many people in this world look at themselves as being just one person, one tiny voice, amongst billions of other - lacking control. I find it almost empowering to think that myself/my children could have the opportunity to give the gift of life and make such a tremendous change in this world.

My cards have all been filled out the same, I chose to have all organs donated, but for the face, eyes, and skin to be left as is.

Victoria said...

Great Topic, but definatley difficult. I am in agreement with Sandra. I feel blessed to know that even in death we are able to help.

Sarah said...

Okay! See Mandy,, you just made me do that "no way" thing again!! I'd given thought to organs and then you go and throw in the whole "face, eyes and skin" comment!! Yikes!! Now I'm scared all over again!!! That is an option?? I'm sorry but I think that is where I would have to draw the line!! I don't know why, but the thought of that just doesn't seem right!! What are everyones thoughts on that one,, feel free to help me see this one in a different light! Organs I can see, people need them to live,, but everything else, just seems creepy,,, maybe that is just my ignorance (on this subject)talking...

Mandy said...

When I filled out the donor cards it listed all the organs along with skin. Skin is actually the largest organ of the human body, used for Skin Grafting.

Ever since I was a little girl people always commented on my big blue eyes and it's the one thing that my girls inherited for their Mama. From a very young age I knew I wanted to be an organ donor, but always knew that I wanted my eyes and face left as it. I came in with certain facial features and I will go out with them as well...The same with my girls.

As for choosing not to donate skin - it just didn't feel right to me. I know that it's an organ needed just as much as the next...but it still doesn't make me feel any different. The thought just creeps me out, or something.

Marina said...

I know this post is almost a year old, but I was wondering if any of you had ever thought of donating a kidney while your still alive to save a child. Yes, even babies can accept an adult kidney and it WILL save their lives.

I am sad to say we lost 2 little ones due to a lack of donors (angel donors that had signed the card as well as living donors)Carter passed in December and Tucker just 2 days ago.

I currently know of over 300 children on facebook alone that are waiting for kidney transplants who's parents are not a match or can not donate to them due to health reasons.

If you would like to know more or find out how you can help please feel free to email me at or visit my facebook page at

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