It was a subject that she was dealing with at the time. I'm sure that she probably still is, in a sense. She wanted me to cover this subject so that she could get an idea of how other
I immediately agreed to do it for her.. However, after thinking about it for a day or two, I decided against it. It was just way too risky to talk about on such a public forum.. I'm trying to gain traffic, not lose it!
These past few days, I've been haunted with thoughts that keep bringing me back to this subject. Why wouldn't I discuss it? This is a mommy blog, and it does relate to mommies!
I've decided that what I'm going to do is this... I'm going to give you a quick background on the situation, and a bit of the email that I received. I will add a few of my own comments, and then I am then going to open up the comment section to all of you. After all, my friend wants to know how other MOMMIES feel on this subject,, not just ME!
My friend lost her baby at 27 weeks pregnant. With the devastation of this still being so fresh, she received news that someone very close to her decided to have an abortion. Apparently the abortion was due to the fact that a baby/pregnancy just wouldn't fit into the "mother's" lifestyle.
Obviously my friend is angry. I can't say I blame her........
Her feelings are very strong and I remind you that these are HER words, not mine.
I've taken bits and pieces from the email.....
Not only for the fact that she was having an abortion, but because it was her SECOND time opting for an abortion. Back in 2007 she also planned on having one, but made herself miscarry first. This girl is 23/24 years old and has been with this so called 'man' for years and years now. They change their relationship status as often as we change our underwear. She was almost 9 weeks pregnant, which means that she got pregnant around the time that we lost our little girl.
Instead of keeping the child and dealing with the lack of his and her responsibility, she opted to abort without a second thought.
I wouldn't respect any other murderer, family member or not, so would I make her the exception...?
I feel so strongly about this topic! I can accept abortion if it due to bad circumstances. But all because she can't keep her legs closed, for a lack of better words?? No no NO absolutely NOT! There is no need for anyone to get pregnant, if they are not prepared to have a child. There are so many difference types of contraceptives. From condoms, to IUD's and Rods, to surgery. So all because she's too irresponsible to use contraceptives, or keep her legs closed, she gets pregnant.
She then chooses to take that little life and throw it out the window like a piece of trash. Like I said in my status comment "One person's trash is another person's treasure."
I would have adopted that child in a heartbeat. If I had of known about the situation earlier, I would have definitely tried to sway her, adoption is ALWAYS an option. Her only problem is that pregnancy would 'cramp' her lifestyle. She sleeps all day, up all night - partying, drinking, doing drugs, and jumping into bed with every other guy.
So, that my friends, is the situation.. A tough one eh??
I have so many thoughts, feelings, arguments that I don't even know where to begin.
Without getting in too deep, I will say this...
I can understand abortion under 2 (and only 2) conditions.
1. If there is a medical condition involving either the mother or the child.. If the baby or mom is at risk of health problems resulting from the pregnancy, I can understand. If it is in the best interest of the baby and or mom, I get it!
2. If the pregnancy is the result of rape.. This needs no explanation..
Those are the only acceptable reasons for abortion in my eyes.. Like my friend said, there is adoption!
I know so many amazing women right now that would make the most wonderful mommies. So many women that can't get pregnant. These women would do ANYTHING to have the chance to have a baby in their arms. It breaks my heart to think that there are babies that could be placed in their arms, but instead, their little lives are terminated because "someone" doesn't want them.
That's it! That is all that I am saying..
Now, who out there is brave enough to leave their thoughts/opinions? Please remember that you always have the option of leaving an anonymous comment.. Just click anonymous when commenting..
I thank you in advance.. and I'm hoping that some of our comments, or even just one will give my friend a little more closure/ peace with this situation that she's been faced with!