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Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Not Planning on Dying....Anytime soon!!

I'm not planning on dying any time soon, but that doesn't stop me from thinking about the possibility...
Yuck, I know!!
No, I'm not a morbid person, but lately there has been so much disease and illness around us that its pretty hard not to think about death, and what comes after.
My sister asked me the other day if we have "A WILL"?? Gulp,,,, "NO"
Aren't we too young to be thinking about a will??
It's not that I haven't given it a lot okay a little thought, but I'm going to be completely honest here and say that the thought of it absolutely terrifies me.
Not the thought of distributing my money and assets because lets face it, we really don't have any, but the thought of thinking about my children and what would happen to them after I go..
My mind just will not let me go there.
Obviously I know that I want them taken care of, and I know that if something were to happen to both Peter and I, I would want my sister and her family to take them, so why is it so hard to put on paper?
There is so much to think about.. and then once you start thinking, your mind can do some crazy, crazy things to you!
I'm even having trouble writing about it now.
Anything could happen at any point, and I know my family, I know that my children would be taken care of. I think that is why I haven't taken any steps to get this over with...
What are your thoughts on this? Do you have one?
I'd also be interested in hearing any info on the process and what is all included.The cost?


Christine said...

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Julie said...

We don't have a will either the thought just scares the crap out of me, but Barry and I have sat down and started to figure things out. We called a lawyer and he said it would be 500.00 for a will and power of attorney for both of us. Now we just have to get there and get it on paper easier said then done its been 6 months since we last talked about it. Good luck

Sarah said...

Thanks Christine!! I hope they still have one! I know my nephew would love this!!!
Julie, it is scary isn't it... I think we'll feel much better when it's done though. $500 for something like this makes me gulp, but in reality, its a really good thing to be spending $500 on!!!

Amy said...

I actually think about this a lot. As a stay at home mom with a husband who works a dangerous job that doesn't follow standard safety procedures I often wonder what if something happens to him? What will I do? I also worry that if something happens to me my husband will prove completely inadequate and hand my kids over to his mother, who he will readily admit needs to be medicated for whatever form of mental disorder she suffers from. I know I have to have faith in him, after all I chose to have at least one of our kids with him (that sounds funny but my son was a whoops lol, this baby however was definitely tried for). I definitely think we need to look into this.

Mrs.Moose said...

We finally did ours two years ago, but we really should have done it the moment we bought our first house and then again when Keagan was born. It really does suck to think about the what ifs! Then having the conversation with our kids guardians was another hard talk, it ended with all four of us (even the guys) in tears. I am really glad we took care of it now. For $500 knowing my kids with be with who WE want them to be with is a relief to me. Really all the other stuff was easy. We have 5 siblings between the two of us so what ever we have gets divided between them all. DONE.
One other thing I did was write a letter to my kids, which I am going to try to update every year. If anything were to happen I would hope having something like this would comfort them a little. One other thing I found good about doing our will was that Ryan and I talked about some things that we had never really discussed. Being buried or cremated? Life support, no life support? Organ donation?

Sarah said...

@ Amy,,, as serious as your comment is, and as much as I appreciate and relate to everything you say, I have to laugh at your comments.. Too funny about your mother in law!!! It's an awful awful thing to think about. Is your family an option???
Amanda, thanks for all of your input.. OMG,, how did you ever get through writing a letter(s)??? Did you do one for each of them, or a joint one??? What a great idea though,, thank you!!
Very good point about discussing things never discussed before it makes me sad to think that i don't know if Peter would want to be buried or cremated.. I think I know, but god forbid anything ever happen, I want to be SURE that I know what he wants. AHHHHH this scares me way too much~

Mrs.Moose said...

I wrote them each one. After Ry's mom died we kinda clung to anything she had written for us etc. We even saved her voice message just so we could keep hearing her voice. It would have been so nice to have a letter for Ryan to read when he's missing her. That is the main reason I do this. I ball my eyes out the whole time I write it!

Sarah said...

So very true,, what a special thing for them to have if something were to ever happen.. My moms mother died when she was 6 months old and I bet she would give just about anything to have a letter from her.. I'm going to "attempt" this on the weekend... Thanks for the great idea!

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