We're all guilty of it!
There are the moms that just can't seem to get it together, the grumpy ones, the ones that yell too much, the one that always looks like they need a coffee, the ones you want to hug and say "it's gets better" to.
And then there are "those" moms. The ones that have it too together. The "princess" that can still afford designer clothes and expensive haircuts. The Moms that have the "perfect" children to go along with their "perfect" lives.
There are the ALWAYS Fun Moms and Happy Moms and the moms that we wish we could be even just a little more like.
You know whats crazy about that? I think if I look at the "list" that I just wrote, I probably fit into each one of those categories in someone's eyes.
Some people see me at the worst of times. Others see me only at my best.
I guess really, it's all perception, isn't it??
I've often wondered (usually while labeling another mommy) how I appear to other women. What label do I have stuck to me?? Wouldn't it be so nice to be able to step back and watch as someone else for a day? To see how we appear to the world, and not to ourselves? (I'm getting deep, eh?)
Last week when I dropped Gracie off at school. (you all know how my Thursday mornings go, if you don't, read here) I won't lie, I was feeling completely overwhelmed and frazzled. On my way out, one of the other mommies stopped me and said:
"I don't know how you do it!"...
Me: "Ummm Pardon?"
Her: "I don't know how you manage to be so put together this early in the morning. You, your girls, you're always so put together".
Me: (fighting hysterical laughter) Little chuckle and then "Thank you! but honestly,, this (hands motioning up and down body) is all a facade!! Trust me, we're the farthest thing from put together! but Thank you!"
I could have just said "thanks" and moved on, but that goes against everything I'm trying to achieve. I want mommies to know that we all struggle, that we all have tough days. I don't want people to think that I'm perfect. (although its kind of nice to think)
I guess what I'm saying is that I don't want to be a mom that makes others beat up on themselves. I don't want to be "that" mom to someone. That mom that makes them wish they were something more than they are.
I would rather be honest and say:
"Look! Yes I have my hair and makeup done. My kids are wearing cute clothes and have really cute hair. All of this and it's only 9am.. But give it to me because it's all I've got!" "Right now the only thing I can think about is coffee. When I get home, I'll be faced with the cleanup from what might have been a tornado, I've got 5 loads of laundry and no food in my fridge. I'll also have a struggle to put this very whiny one year old down for her nap so that I can have 5 minutes to myself. Having my hair and makeup done just makes me feel a little better!"
So my friends, that's it. I just wanted to put it out there, to remind you, that everyone views us differently. It could be very different than we have ourselves viewed. Maybe it's better, maybe it's worse.
I realized that day in Nursery School that all of my "labels" that I have for other mommies are just that.. It's just my view, my opinion and I'm probably WAY off, just like that nice mommy was with me!!!
Perception ladies, It's all perception!!!! As long as you like what you see and who you are,(at least most of the time) nothing else matters!