This post is one that was lost when Blogger went all crazy last week.. I'm glad they found it because I wasn't prepared to retype it... Hope you enjoy it....
I read something that I found CRAZY the other day. I read it on another blog, and it fascinated me! (Check it out, it's a fun post)
In a nutshell, she is talking about the fact that the day after Mother's Day is the second most popular day for women to cheat on their husbands!!!
What is the first you are probably asking????
The day after Valentines Day..
The logical side of me has been trying to figure this out for a few days now. I mean,, I guess in a way, it totally makes sense... Those two occasions are pretty important to a lot of women.
I used to be like that. (fantasizing all week about what Peter was going to plan for me, and what he would buy me!) I soon realized that my husband sucks at showing his love and appreciation in big ways and I could either accept it, or move on. I chose to accept it because I love the
After a lot of thought, I've decided that these women CAN'T possibly be happy leading up to those days. Could it really be that easy to cheat?? Am I that sheltered and naive that I don't believe women just "go out and cheat"? The thought of that not only disgusts me, but scares me!
I guess to these women, Mother's day and Valentines day might be, in a sense, a test! Can he prove his love? How much does he love me? When he doesn't "prove" it, she cheats?! (I try not to judge and I know that no one ever knows what led to this point, but really??!! Why not get out before this point!)
We know A LOT of people in unhappy relationships right now.. Most of them with kids. It breaks my heart to see and hear of all of these problems.
What happens along the way? How do people get so unhappy? Are these the people that go and cheat the day after Mother's day and Valentine's day? Oh my gosh! I wonder if any of my friends cheated this week??! (funny but I'm kinda wondering)
Peter and I discussed this whole subject the other night, and it was so funny to see him get all defensive (because he knows he sucks at holidays!). I had to convince him that I wasn't threatening him in any way, I was just wanting to let him know how lucky he is!! lol..
Honestly though, I wanted to hear his take on it because as much as I hate to admit it, my husband is a very wise man..
My husband's belief is that women (and men) will always use an excuse. He thinks that when someone cheats or wants out of the marriage, whatever they say is usually just an excuse. So... Screwing up Mother's Day or Valentines's day would just give "her" an excuse to go out and cheat to get out of the marriage. Basically he believes that it's much bigger things that no one has the guts to talk about, so it's easier to find an excuse.The marriage was probably "over"(in one or both minds) long before a screwed up Mothers day. I think he's on to something!
Again though, how in the world does it get to this point??
I read a really smart thing once. It said that if your car all of the sudden started running funny, you'd take it to the garage right away. You wouldn't waste any time getting it fixed. Never would you just keep driving it until it breaks down!
So, why do we "drive" our marriages until they breakdown? Why not do some maintenance as soon as things start feeling like they're slipping? If it's counselling, weekends away, date nights, why don't we worry about our relationships as much as the material things in our lives? Why do we wait until we go out and cheat the day after Mother's day??
This is a topic that I could talk about forever, but I'm going to stop here and let you guys join in...
What are your opinions?
How do our relationships end up so bad that it comes to cheating?
Why do people cheat?
Can you understand why so many women go out and cheat if their men let them down on special days?
Also..... be sure to let your hubby's know about this statistic. I have a feeling it will result in some great Mother's days from here on out!!! lol
Have a great day ladies!