I turned 32.
It is the one day that is MINE.
It's not Christmas, Valentines day or Mothers day, it's MY birthday! To me, it's a big deal. Its the one day out of 365 that I would like to be my special day. I want my birthday to be a big deal! Call me spoiled, or whatever you want, but I don't ask for much.
Leading up to yesterday, my hubby hadn't mentioned my birthday very much at all. I "ASSUMED" that this was a good thing. Usually if he is quiet its because he's got something that he doesn't want to spill.. Maybe he had dinner planned? Were we going out? Would friends be there? Maybe he just had a really great gift and he'd bring home some Indian food for me?? I realize that one should never "expect" anything, to avoid disappointment, but Come On, I'm a woman!
The phone rang at about 10 am yesterday morning. (THE DAY OF) It was my grumpy, very stressed out hubby.. He didn't know what to get me, he didn't know what to do? What did I want for dinner? Was there anything I have been wanting?? Really?? REALLY????!!
I went from a really great mood, to a pouty little
I was shocked that he hadn't put any thought into this until the day of.
I have talked to a few girlfriends and most tend to say that their hubby is the same, so I'm not just writing this post to bash my hubby.
Why don't men get it? Why is it so hard?
Instead, he phones ME! Of all people, ME! Why not call your buddies? Ask someone you work with. Please don't call me to let me know that you've given absolutely zero thought to my birthday until my birthday! When he called, I felt like nothing more than a hassle to him..
I wanted to say "I'm so sorry that you're stressed out and having anxiety over my birthday! You poor thing! I'm so sorry to put that much stress on you and ruin your day like this. I promise honey, it won't happen again!"
Or maybe I should have said "You realize that if you would have given this some thought before now, and if you were actually excited about making my day special for me,(like I am for you) this would have been a lot easier on you! But, since you're asking, I'd really like dinner out. The Keg would be nice. And,,, if you had been listening to me speak at all over the past few months, you would know that I've been really wanting an Ereader, or a hand held pocket camcorder. But, since you didn't think of that, I also saw a really nice sparkley ring last week.. That will be sufficient."
Instead, I turned into a spoiled little
And then I cried. I felt sorry for myself! I sent him an email telling him not to waste money, especially on flowers, and that I would cook dinner. I probably gave him double the anxiety he already had... HA!!! I wonder if he's worried that I'm going to cheat on him today ?(Read that link if you don't get the joke) LMAO
When it comes to occasions and holidays in this house, I do everything. I usually start planning the girls parties months before they even arrive. I make sure everything is perfect. I know what I'm giving hubby weeks before the occasion comes, and I do everything that I can to make "his" day special for him. Just once, I would like the same thing in return.
There was one other thing that made me pout last night.. I didn't get one single phone call from a friend. My parents, my sister and my brother all called, and my hubby. (although that call didn't go so well) Not one of my friends called. I got lots of nice wall posts on Facebook, but that was it.
I'm probably just as guilty of this, I probably don't call enough of my friends on their birthday. This made me realize that from now on, I'm picking up and calling my friends. Facebook just doesn't cut it. People need to feel special on their birthday damn-it!!
I'm over it today. I had my day of pouting, sulking, feeling sorry for myself and acting like a spoiled little bitch, but I'm over it. Hubby came home with a great bottle of wine (he didn't get me a cake. I took notice, and let Gracie make him feel bad about that ..lol) and some nice gifts and I've once again accepted that men just don't get it...they probably never will.
So, every year on my birthday, I will probably continue to have my day of acting rotten and spoiled, and then I will move on to appreciating all of the amazing things that he does for me
Besides, I'd have less to blog about!
PS~ LOVE YOU HONEY!! I know you're reading!