You are all pretty aware that I had a yucky day yesterday...
I think I'm PMSing. (which may or may not be known for making me a little crazy) I'm not really sure (about the PMSing) though because I don't actually "Get" my period since having the IUD placed..
I know!! It's great! And for more reasons than the obvious...
Now, because we don't know when I'm "in" that week of PMSing, I always have an excuse for being a psycho!!
Anyway.. I had a crappy day. I had lots to do, and I
Sure, I probably could have gotten more done, but ... I didn't.
What did I get done?
I got the dishes all done, the house vacuumed, the floors mopped. The windows and all glass was Windexed. The main floor washroom was cleaned, 3 loads of laundry were folded, the backyard was tidied up, the flowers and grass in the back was watered, my kids were fed, twice. My kids were played with.My kids were dressed.Toys were picked up about 50 times. I wrote a blog post, read some blogs, and spent half an hour sitting in the sun..
I felt pretty good about my day.
I had planned on sitting out in the sun for 30 minutes while the girls napped. Then, I was going to come in, shower, water the front flowers, and fold some more laundry.
On my way in, I got a message stating that we were going to have company in 20 minutes..
So, I tidied up the laundry that was out, and woke up the girls..
The company came and we had a nice visit. Peter got home while they were still there. (which was fine because it was his family)
In my head, I was thinking "Obviously when you walked in, you saw that I didn't get to watering those flowers, so why bother asking!"...
When I said "no", I didn't get much of a response.. When I tried to explain why I didn't get to it, I still didn't get much of a response... then I got mad...
I understand that we had a busy weekend. I understand that he worked all day and was extremely tired, but I also understand that I was tired, and worked all day as well...
No one said that he HAD to water the flowers, but even if he did... it would have been the only thing he had to do.
He didn't have to make the girls dinner, he didn't have to bathe them, he didn't have to get them ready for bed, and he didn't have to tuck them in and read them bedtime stories...he didn't have to finish the laundry.
I gladly would have watered the flowers if he wanted to do all that...
I know that I'm probably being a little crazy,, but why does something that I didn't get to, have to be pointed out before all of the things that I did do??
And why am I so mad? Why am I so defensive?
Obviously it's because I'm feeling guilty, because I know that I probably did have the time to water those stinking flowers but chose to sit outside instead..
So what did I do?? I stopped talking to him, slammed a couple of doors, stomped around mad, got the watering can, and watered the flowers.. It took me all of 5 minutes..
So, now as I sit here typing this, I question whether I am mad at him, for asking a dumb question, and pointing out something that I didn't do rather than all that I did do, or am I mad at myself for not taking time to do the few little things that I could have.. Am I defensive because I know I should have done it?? I most certainly am.. My poor hubby!!
Do you ladies ever do this? I totally caused an argument because of my own guilt..
Was I wrong to do that, or is it just something that women do??
Even if I was wrong, it shouldn't have been a big deal that the flowers weren't watered!!!
I don't think I'm going to say "I'm Sorry", but I'll let it go.. for now!