I've debated blogging about this for a while now...
I guess the fear of someone knowing that I am talking about them, or someone disagreeing with what I am saying has been what holds me back..
I realized last night, after a family trip to the park, that I no longer care..
Judge away people, judge away!!
We decided after dinner last night to take the girls to the park. The girls played for a little while and then Gracie spotted a little girl and her brother playing.
Let me tell you that Gracie is a very social person. She loves people and she loves kids. She wants to be friends with everyone. (We've had one incident that she didn't like a little girl, and I have no idea why, but we dealt with it)
Anyway... Gracie walked over to where the little boy and girl were playing in the sand, and plopped down next to them. She didn't say a word, just smiled and started to play on her own. She kept looking at the little girl, probably hoping that they would talk to her. The little girl, looked at her, and swung around, turning her back to her while continuing to play.
I didn't see it, but my husband did. When he told me about it, my heart broke a little.
The little boy was probably too young to know better, but the little girl was just a little brat..
I glanced over at the Mother, who was sitting on a park bench watching. She didn't care. Unbelievable.
Maybe she didn't know what to say, maybe she didn't want to embarrass her child, or maybe her child was just like her.
She was one of "those" moms! When we arrived at the park, I looked at her and smiled. (as I always do. I don't want to make friends at the park.. we all know that I'm not a park mom fan. However, I am a nice person. I smile, maybe make small talk,, whatever) When I smiled at her, she looked away. Whatever!
I don't care how you treat me, but I care how my child is treated.
Obviously this little girl behaves like her mother..
This probably doesn't seem like a huge deal right? It's not really, but I am so tired of seeing my little girl treated this way.
I used to pick her up at school. She would say goodbye to everyone when she left. She made a point of trying to say goodbye to everyone. There was one little girl that scowled and turned her head every time Gracie said goodbye.
Again,, my heart would break.
It didn't matter to Gracie that the little girl turned her head. Every day, she continued to say goodbye to her.
How hard would it be for this little girl to say goodbye to my baby? Why is this little girl so rude, and how did she get that way?
I asked Gracie one day why she continues to try with kids who ignore her... her response "That's okay mommy, I should still be friends."... I so badly want to say "NO!! NO, don't try to be friends with them. They are rude, and they're making you look silly." Instead, I smile and tell her that she is amazing.
I've started to worry lately. What if this happens at school? What if no one is ever nice to her?
Is it Gracie? What about her don't these children like? Is she going to be the kid that is bullied, and that is constantly trying to get people to like her and play with her??
She doesn't look different! She doesn't smell! She's clean! She wears nice clothes! Besides,, none of that should matter!
Seriously, I'm losing sleep over this.
As a parent, I try to teach my kids that everyone needs friends. We don't have to like everyone, but we have to be nice. We don't want to hurt feelings, we don't want to make others sad.
I wish that all parents could be on the same page with this.
If I saw Gracie being rude to another child or ignoring someone that was trying to play with her. You can be assured, that no matter where we were, I'd be giving her an attitude adjustment...
I'm a firm believer that these kids (the ones ignoring my baby and breaking my heart) will be the bullies in school. Why not stop them at a young age??
I will forever blame the parents of these children for not doing something about the way their children behave.
My heart breaks for my little girl, but at the same time, I am so proud of her.
She is such a friendly, happy little girl that wants to be friends with everyone. (except that one little girl which I still feel bad about) She doesn't care what people look like, what colour their skin or hair is, how old they are, she just wants friends..
I hope she never changes...
So mommies!! Please watch your children... please make sure they're the nice kid on the playground...
The mommies of the other nice kids will love you for it!!