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Saturday, August 27, 2011

Saturday Fav.... MAN VS. MOMMY (AGAIN)

So,, I had trouble finding a favourite this week..

Most of the posts I read were about Back to School and the Hurricane..

Not that I didn't enjoy the posts, but I'm kind of tired of the two subjects and wanted to switch it up a bit..
This post is from last week, but I just got around to reading it this week.

Once again, it's from Man Vs. Mommy.. I love this Blog... I think we could be friends..

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Who are they really? 
You know — the proverbial “they” — doctors, lawyers, friends, family…experts! Whether you are a parent, a chef, a designer, or a sanitation worker, it seems that they are always there to dole out their pearls of advice.  So do we listen to them, follow what they say? Do we dismiss it like a teenager does parental advice?  How do we trust that they are right? Frankly, I don’t have the answer for you.
Before I gave birth to Man I had no idea how to take care of a baby.  Unless you are a member of the Duggar family and have about 20 little brothers and sisters, chances are you probably didn’t know much either… But they do!
From the minute Man popped out, breast-feeding was a problem.  Without getting into too many details, everything seemed difficult—from my ability to give to his ability to take.  They seemed to have all of the answers.  Nurses, doctors, lactation specialists, professional basketball players—EVERYONE had advice, most of if unsolicited, and all of it delivered in hushed tones, quoting the proverbial they.  They say if you put him on the bottle he will never want to breast-feed.  They say you can finger-feed him breast milk until he is strong enough to suck (I found this advice particularly daunting).  They say that you should just feed him formula from the bottle because he can’t go this long without food.  They say the best formula is… My head was spinning; I had no idea which they I should be listening to.  Instead of giving me comfort, all this wisdom actually made me feel terrible, scared, and more anxious about being a new mom than I already was.
Sleep was another source of suffering for my husband and I.  They said that you should stop swaddling your baby at three months.  Man loved his swaddle; when we finally forced him off of it at four months (because they said we had to) it set off a chain of events that resulted in three months of sleepless hell.  Obviouslythey were wrong!  He was a joy until the moment we stopped swaddling him! I began to look for more books on how to help solve Man’s sleep problem, but of course they had strong opinions on what books I should read.  And of course, each new book I read would offer completely contradictory advice to the previous one, and they had me confused yet again.
They say Man should always sleep on his stomach; then they say he should always sleep on his back.  Um, he moves in his sleep, how do I have control over this?  They say he should get a bath every other day, and then they say it should really be only twice a week.  He is a MESS every evening—sticky, dirty, sometimes covered in dog hair—how am I supposed to ignore this and not bathe him?  No peanut butter until after his first birthday; no juice, only water.  Until about a week ago he HATED water but isn’t hydration the key? If I need to spike four ounces of water with a half-ounce of juice, I’m okay with that. 
They say a lot of things, and in the end I don’t think they know what they are talking about.  The only one I realty trust is myself. I know Man better than anyone.  Guess what else they say? It’s impolite to give unsolicited advice. 
What do they tell you?


RoryBore said...

That's a great post! so, so true.

My mom made a comment last week that she couldn't understand why so many moms are complaining about how hard motherhood is. we never did that in my day, she claims. hm, really? Was it all the available drugs? because it seems to me you would have had to do the same stuff I do each day...and you Never found it hard? as a single mom - truly?
But this post I think tells why....nobody bothered my mom when she was raising me. people minded their own business and let you do your thing. there were no play dates, or mommy clubs to breed competitiveness. no "tsk, tsk" over choices made. Her mom (my grandma) certainly wouldn't have interfered the way she can interfere with my children. And I think that is a huge difference in our society. Back then, you just tried your best and hoped for the best. But we, we are supposed to be so much enlightened and together. That's a lot of pressure for something that is essentially an on the job training position!

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