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Tuesday, October 18, 2011

MEN!!

Ok, so I was going to write about Gracie, and her school, but I've changed my mind.

Instead I need to vent. About men..

How many of your men do things with you that YOU want to do? How many of your men will tag along with you, doing something they probably wouldn't choose to do, just to make you happy??

If you have a man like that,, kiss him!! Seriously, go kiss him.

My hubby, will not do ANYTHING that interests me... NOTHING.. If he doesn't want to do it. We don't do it, or I do it alone... END OF STORY!

My sister and I went on a Christmas Home Tour last year. It was amazing. Some of the homes we saw were out of this world. We got decorating ideas, design ideas, renovation ideas. A couple of times through the night we mentioned how much our hubby's would "love" to see certain houses.
Plus, there was food, there were drinks, we could go out after.. We could make a fun night of it..

That time of year is here again! So, on the weekend, I mentioned to Hubby, that it would be really fun if he and "brother in law" joined us...

His response ~ "UH... NO!! I have no interest in doing something like that... none.. If you want me to meet you for drinks after, fine, but I will not be going with you"

OKAY then!!!

Tonight,, flipping through channels,, we see Dancing with the Stars... it was a really fun, sexy dance.
I say "We should do dance lessons again! We had so much fun when we did it" (we took dance lessons before our wedding)

His response~ "UH....NO!!"

Me~ "Come on! We had so much fun doing that, you know we did. Besides, we need to do something for US.. Something for US to have fun again"
HIM "UH...NO!!! That's fine, but it won't be dance lessons... pick something else"

REALLY??!! REALLY??!!!

I wonder what he will say next time he flips on the UFC and I say "UH NO!! I really have no interest in men beating the pulp out of each other"
Or maybe when his Christmas party comes this year, I will say " UH NO!!  I really have no interest in dining and dancing with a bunch of people that I don't know. I don't feel like spending $400 on dress, hair, makeup, shoes, jewelry, hotel etc..to go hang out with YOUR work friends all night..

Or maybe the next time he wants to go to an antique market on a RAINY, COLD, Sunday morning to find a seat for the motorcycle that he is rebuilding, I will say "UH NO!!! I don't even like motorcycles, and it's raining!"

GRRRRRRRRR....

Do you get my point???
Am I the only woman who has a man like this??

What do you and your hubby do together that is just for you?? Something you both enjoy?!
(And keep it clean, I'm fully aware of the obvious!!) lol

Thanks for letting me vent ladies,, I needed it tonight!!

**** TO CLARIFY~ MY HUBBY IS AMAZING WHEN IT COMES TO DOING THINGS AS A FAMILY. WE HAVE FAMILY DAY, AND HE WILL WILLINGLY DO ANYTHING THAT I SUGGEST AS AN OUTING WITH THE GIRLS.
HE IS ONLY LIKE THIS WHEN I SUGGEST THINGS THAT I AM INTERESTED IN FOR THE TWO OF US TO DO TOGETHER.. IF HE'S NOT INTERESTED, HE DOESN'T WANT TO DO IT..
AS A FATHER THOUGH, HE ROCKS...
I DON'T THINK HE'S EMBARRASSED TO BE SEEN WITH ME IN PUBLIC OR ANYTHING,,,,LOL****
I APOLOGIZE TO MY HUSBAND FOR MAKING PEOPLE THINK OTHERWISE...


XO

7 comments:

Steph said...

GRRRRR!!!! I hear you! I have nothing to say...except, thanks for venting for me too! Now I am going to stomp into our room and just go to sleep! *Nothing* interests me tonight! ;)

RoryBore said...

Oh boy. I have to do something nice for my hubby. I asked if he wanted to go to a marriage seminar offered at a local church. its' not intended for those who have trouble in their marriage -- but more like giving great ideas for re-connecting once a few kids have arrived, or better ways of communicating. a refresher if you will. I had my arguements, pros all planned out and...
....I didn't need them. he wanted to go too.
crap. now I can't be mad that he left the dirty egg pan in the sink again.

A Mother's Thoughts said...

I think that this is such a tabbo topic that most women don't even want to admit happen in their relationship. For the most part there are a lot of crappy husbands out there. My hubby and I married 7 years ago and since I signed the dotted line ALL ambition has went out the window. It's like, theyve got us now, they don't need to try anymore. For years I made excuses of why my husband wasn't with us,(my children and I) because it was so embaressing. Now I just don't care...it takes too much energy. I go with the children and do what I got to do.....does it still hurt my feelings, for sure, but that's all it is, my feelings, not his. When roles are reversed though, I would love to be able to say no, but when he wants to go for a drive or needs to go somewheres, i don't want to pass it up, because he doesn't do anything else. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and it's not just you. It sucks but at least you've got friends and family that care enough to be seen in public with you!!!

Lynn

NotSoSilentMommy said...

@Rory,, go kiss your hubby!!!
Steph, Lynn,, I'm glad I'm not alone..
I think it's just in their blood..
I should clarify a little more though. My hubby does a ton with the girls and I. We have family day on Sunday, and we try to always go out as a family and do something fun. He doesn't have any trouble spending time with the girls and I. He just doesn't like doing anything that he doesn't have to.. Like girl things, stuff that women are interested in,,, even though I try to be involved with anything he likes..
He doesn't mind being seen with me in public though... i think... lol

The Home C.E.O. said...

So you've got yourself a great daddy and not a great hubby.

i had this sit -down with my hubs the other day. He agreed that we should do more things together. i find it, i plan it, he comes. (and ends up having a great time)

NotSoSilentMommy said...

Well, he's a great daddy, and a great hubby,, MOST of the time..
This is my only issue with him..
He really is great in every other way.
I just wish he would want to do some of the things that I enjoy..
He fully supports anything that I want to do,,as long as I do it without him..lol
That being said, I wouldn't want him with me if he didn't want to be there because he'd just be miserable the whole time anyway!!!

Steph said...

So true... sometimes we complain about them and i'm sure they do a lot (because if they didn't we'd leave them! LOL)... but you are right, if we *force* them to go and do something they didn't want to do -- they would be miserable and then the whole activity is ruined! but couldn't they for *once* just go and do something different before they say no??? just TRY???

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