IT'S NOT HARD... I DID IT TOO!

Hopefully all of you read my SATURDAY FAVOURITE this week. If you haven't, click HERE to catch up.

I received a comment after that post. A comment that I couldn't resist posting about.. and discussing..

That's a great post! so, so true. My mom made a comment last week that she couldn't understand why so many moms are complaining about how hard motherhood is. we never did that in my day, she claims. hm, really? Was it all the available drugs? because it seems to me you would have had to do the same stuff I do each day...and you Never found it hard? as a single mom - truly? But this post I think tells why....nobody bothered my mom when she was raising me. people minded their own business and let you do your thing. there were no play dates, or mommy clubs to breed competitiveness. no "tsk, tsk" over choices made. Her mom (my grandma) certainly wouldn't have interfered the way she can interfere with my children. And I think that is a huge difference in our society. Back then, you just tried your best and hoped for the best. But we, we are supposed to be so much enlightened and together. That's a lot of pressure for something that is essentially an on the job training position!


I was SO happy to hear that this, right here, is a NORMAL situation.

I don't know how many times, I've complained or made a point of saying something, only to hear "Oh you don't have to tell me about that, I had 3 of you, remember?"

Grr.... not really the response that I'm looking for when I'm having the kind of day that I want to commit myself to a mental institute.
I don't want to hear comments about how "back in the day, it was much tougher than it is today."

SAYS WHO??!!!!

It makes everyone else happy... Grrrrr...

Was it tougher back then?
Would "they" feel different if they were to do it all over again in the society that we live in? Today?

Also, one minute they're saying that they never complained, and that they managed motherhood without complaining, but in the very next sentence, they're saying it was "tougher back then".....

I don't know about all of you, but if I have a moment (or 10) that I'm complaining, I'm not doing it for sympathy. I'm doing it because I need to vent. I need to get it off my chest.

OBVIOUSLY I know that everyone who has kids goes through the same things, obviously I know that it's hard for everyone, and it's not just me.. BUT.... at that very moment, that moment that I'm literally pulling my hair out and on the verge of tears, I feel alone.

I do feel like the only mother in the world who has ever wanted to run away, who has ever felt like the worst mother in the world. There are times that I feel like the only woman in the world who has had to deal with two toddlers having tantrums at the same time...

I'm not looking for sympathy, I just need to get it out.. Let me have my moment!! PLEASE!!
I'll be fine in a few minutes, but good lord, let me get it out, and please don't insult me while I'm doing it..

Comparing me or pointing out the obvious isn't going to make me feel better.

Maybe when other women do this, its the age old case of people "forgetting" what its really like to be in a situation.

Compare it to pregnancy. When you're going through those 9 months, it's hell.
Once the baby arrives, you say "that wasn't so bad, I could do it again."
We then become instant experts to all of the other pregnant women in the world..

Maybe when our kids are a little older and a lot easier, we'll look back at these days with a really distorted vision of what it was like and tell all new mothers to stop complaining, we went through the same thing, and that we never complained!! LOL

I don't know!! What is your opinion??

I'll be continuing my Family Matters subject tomorrow.. I want to talk about how we act/parent different when our  families are around.. Oh yes, it's going to be a good one!
XO

UP ALL NIGHT....

Hey Ladies!!

Today is a crappy day. Just crappy.

I don't feel like writing, or trying to be funny. In fact, what I really want to do is crawl into bed and sleep for a week. That obviously isn't an option.

Something just made me laugh. I laughed for the first time today because of this..

So... naturally the first thing I thought of, was that I had to share it with all of you.

I cannot wait until this show starts.. I think we may have to start a weekly discussion after each episode..
Take a look in case you haven't already seen these previews....

Make sure you watch both, they're just too funny!!







I just love these two!! It's about time they came up with a show to please all of us half crazy mommies!!!
XO

LOST: WRITING MOJO!

I've been struggling lately..

Struggling with my posts. I can't think of anything to write about, and it's been feeling like more of a hassle to write, than anything.

It feels like it's just one more thing on my TO DO list everyday.

It wasn't like that in the beginning.

In the beginning I fell asleep thinking about everything I could write about. I woke up excited to write.

Now, I find myself wondering how I'm going to find time to get on here..

I logged on to Facebook over the weekend, and with one simple message, my inspiration for this site was renewed.. Here is the message:

Hi Sarah,

I just wanted to let you know that after writing on your wall about the whole 'three murderers' fiasco I noticed you mentioned your blog. So I googled it.

When I went off on mat leave in March it was such a complete 360 of how my life usually goes. I felt so lonely and I turned to reading other mommy blogs for comfort. I even wanted one of my own as I love to write.

So I read your blog. I hope you don't mind. I love it! I just don't want to you think that I'm a creepy stalker. I'm just another lonely mom who feels like she's going crazy some days and your words are a comfort and an inspiration. 

Thank you for that 

I highlighted the last sentence of the message. That last sentence is what kicked my butt back into high gear.


I was reminded that there are still so many moms out there feeling alone, feeling isolated. 
There are moms that need to read "reality" every now and then to stop them from going crazy. To keep them going every day, and to make them realize they're not alone on this emotional roller coaster of mommyhood..


So, I have my mojo back! I'm back on track!


Have a great day ladies! 


And please, keep the letters and comments going. Not just for me, but for all of the other bloggers out there.
Sometimes a quick message gives us the inspiration to keep going!!


XO

Saturday Fav.... MAN VS. MOMMY (AGAIN)

So,, I had trouble finding a favourite this week..

Most of the posts I read were about Back to School and the Hurricane..

Not that I didn't enjoy the posts, but I'm kind of tired of the two subjects and wanted to switch it up a bit..
This post is from last week, but I just got around to reading it this week.

Once again, it's from Man Vs. Mommy.. I love this Blog... I think we could be friends..

In case you're not already following this one, be sure to pop by and check it out. You can do that by clicking
HERE.....


Enjoy!!!

They

Who are they really? 

You know — the proverbial “they” — doctors, lawyers, friends, family…experts! Whether you are a parent, a chef, a designer, or a sanitation worker, it seems that they are always there to dole out their pearls of advice.  So do we listen to them, follow what they say? Do we dismiss it like a teenager does parental advice?  How do we trust that they are right? Frankly, I don’t have the answer for you.

Before I gave birth to Man I had no idea how to take care of a baby.  Unless you are a member of the Duggar family and have about 20 little brothers and sisters, chances are you probably didn’t know much either… But they do!

From the minute Man popped out, breast-feeding was a problem.  Without getting into too many details, everything seemed difficult—from my ability to give to his ability to take.  They seemed to have all of the answers.  Nurses, doctors, lactation specialists, professional basketball players—EVERYONE had advice, most of if unsolicited, and all of it delivered in hushed tones, quoting the proverbial they.  They say if you put him on the bottle he will never want to breast-feed.  They say you can finger-feed him breast milk until he is strong enough to suck (I found this advice particularly daunting).  They say that you should just feed him formula from the bottle because he can’t go this long without food.  They say the best formula is… My head was spinning; I had no idea which they I should be listening to.  Instead of giving me comfort, all this wisdom actually made me feel terrible, scared, and more anxious about being a new mom than I already was.

Sleep was another source of suffering for my husband and I.  They said that you should stop swaddling your baby at three months.  Man loved his swaddle; when we finally forced him off of it at four months (because they said we had to) it set off a chain of events that resulted in three months of sleepless hell.  Obviouslythey were wrong!  He was a joy until the moment we stopped swaddling him! I began to look for more books on how to help solve Man’s sleep problem, but of course they had strong opinions on what books I should read.  And of course, each new book I read would offer completely contradictory advice to the previous one, and they had me confused yet again.

They say Man should always sleep on his stomach; then they say he should always sleep on his back.  Um, he moves in his sleep, how do I have control over this?  They say he should get a bath every other day, and then they say it should really be only twice a week.  He is a MESS every evening—sticky, dirty, sometimes covered in dog hair—how am I supposed to ignore this and not bathe him?  No peanut butter until after his first birthday; no juice, only water.  Until about a week ago he HATED water but isn’t hydration the key? If I need to spike four ounces of water with a half-ounce of juice, I’m okay with that. 

They say a lot of things, and in the end I don’t think they know what they are talking about.  The only one I realty trust is myself. I know Man better than anyone.  Guess what else they say? It’s impolite to give unsolicited advice. 

What do they tell you?
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FRIDAY FIVE = Live and Learn....

I'm not gonna lie!

It's Thursday night and I'm sitting down to do my Friday Five.. I've drank 1/2  a bottle of really yummy Malbec, and I'm quite upset about the happenings on Big Brother..

What's a girl to do??!

BLOG!!

Okay, so, once again, this week dragged on.. I need Friday to be here!
I have a busy weekend, but a fun one..

As I sit here, looking back at my past week, I'm really happy that a new one is beginning.
It hasn't been a BAD week, but it really hasn't been a great one either..

Sometimes the lessons we learn as an adult are much more difficult than our childhood ones...
Here we go....

1. THINGS/PEOPLE CHANGE~ or maybe people have always been this way, and we've just had a distorted view of who they are... OR...Maybe we change, and they all stay the same?? I don't know.. Either way,,things change, and it sucks.

2. TALK IT OUT!! ~ It's much better to have the conversation.. No matter how many times we start and then stop.. no matter what it is.. get it out.. if you don't, it will eat at you. Stuff that is held in can only do harm.. What's the worst that can happen by talking about it??

3. ROAD TRIPS ARE GOOD FOR THE SOUL~ 10 hours in a car,, ,just him and I... all in one weekend.. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. We laughed, we joked, we got serious, we found a dirt road.....
You get my point.. I think that if there is any true test in this world, for a couple, it's just that.. Put yourself in a vehicle together.. no kids, no pets... no stops... what happens?
I realized in those 10 hours that there is no one that I would rather be stuck in a vehicle with than my hubby...I remembered why we fell in love..

4. ITS A SMALL WORLD~ We drove 5 hours to a surprise party. We knew we would know some of the guest but not many. The guest of honour was "delivered" by my husbands cousin...I had never met her, and he hadn't seen her in years.. She is absolutely amazing, and I'm so thankful to have met her..

5. I SHOULD WORRY MORE~ I found out today that Mommie's I (kind of) know are totally spending their times prepping their children for JK.. Like to the point of packing a lunch in a lunch bag for them and making sure they know how to go to it, take a snack, eat their lunch, open containers...etc... Should I be doing this??? Ahh... see.. it's mommies like this that turn me into a complete freak...
Should I be doing Mock lunches???? For real.... Should I?????

Have an awesome weekend ladies *and gents*!!!

We're having a purging weekend here in my household.. We're already arguing over what stays and what goes, so I'm sure you're all in for a fun blog post next week.. Maybe my hubby should guest post?!!

XO

Words to live by!!

Sorry ladies! No time for a real post, but thought you would all love this!!!

I'm addicted to Pinterest and it's taking from my Blog time.. My apologies!!! :)

As I pin this, my h2o mop is staring at me, and my feet are sticky because of the spilled Freezie all over my floors..

Perfect timing!!

Source: simplydesigning.blogspot.com via Andrea on Pinterest

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'via Blog this'

Not Very Social

I'm hoping that someone can relate to me with this post.

I'm thinking if anyone can, it will be some of you stay at home mommies..

Lately, I've been noticing something about myself. A BIG change. Something that when I sit and think about it, saddens me, but I have no clue how to change it.

I've completely lost all of my social skills since becoming a Stay at Home Mom. It's sad, but it's true.

I've worked with the public my entire working life. I've always been a very social person.
For almost 10 years, I've been an Esthetician. I've seen 15-20 clients a day, booked appointments over the phone. For 4 of those years, I owned my own salon. I dealt with staff,clients and sales reps. You name it, I had no problem dealing with people.

Now, I can't even return and item to a store. In fact, I won't do it. Anxiety takes over, and I just don't do it.
I don't know what I think is going to happen. It's not like I think that someone is going bite me.
I just don't like dealing with people.

I ask myself that as well. Is it that I CAN'T deal with people, or that I just really don't WANT to deal with people?

In many cases, I know that I just don't want to.
Like all of those annoying door to door sales people?? Yeah, I just don't answer the door.
The phone rings, it's a number I don't know? I don't answer it..

But.. then there are the times that I walk into a situation where its new people,(like a birthday party or get together) and I completely shut down. I stay close to my hubby, or someone I know.
I've lost all mingling skills.
I used to be the type of person that would start conversations with people,
now I sit and wait until someone talks to me. Sometimes I even sit and hope that no one will!!!

Usually, while I wait, I sit and think about how much more I'd like to be at home. Home in my comfy little house where I don't have to find something to talk about or worry about whether I'm saying the right thing.

Let's face it. The only things I have to talk about are my girls, and I'm sure people really don't want to sit and talk about my kids all night..

To a lot of people, I probably look like a super *itch, but I'm not. No really I'm not....
Honestly, kids just stole all of my social skills and I have no clue how to talk to you or start a conversation..
Once the conversation has started, I'm fine. It's just getting me started..

It's not like I have social anxiety or anything. I have no problem going out. I actually look forward to it. I've just lost my outgoing personality. I've lost the ability to feel comfortable while meeting new people, or being thrown into new situations.  I've lost my want for small talk and mingling..

That being said, I could probably walk into a room full of 3 year olds and light up the room!! I'd have no issues there!!

Am I alone here? Does anyone battle with this? Who has some ideas of what I can do to get my social skills back?!
HELP!!!!

A Must Share!!

I had to share this with you ladies!! LOVE IT!!!!

Source: cgi.ebay.com via Jennifer on Pinterest

Here We Go...Award Time.

AWARDS, AWARDS, AWARDS!!!!

I've been given so many great awards, but haven't had the chance to acknowledge the awesome women who have awarded me with them!

I am finally going to get that.

Believe it or not, I've been given four awards by four awesome mommies!!

The BLOG ON FIRE award was given to me by:

SORTA SUPERMOM FROM CONFESSIONS FROM BOYSTOWN
LAURA FROM FIND CATHARSIS
LES FROM TIME OUT FOR MOM~

Please check out these women and their great sites..

I was also given the VERSATILE BLOGGER AWARD by:

DEBRA FROM DEBRAS DOLLARS

Again, don't forget to check out her site...

I want to thank these ladies so much. Receiving an award confirms that I'm not completely crazy with what I write, and also that I'm not just on here talking to myself every day. lol
It's very good for one's confidence and pride to get these awards, so believe me when I say that I am very grateful.  Even if it did take me over a month to accept them!!


So, of course there are all of these rules that come with accepting my awards..
One is to list 7 things that everyone may not know about me, the second is to pick 10 other Bloggers to award in return..

First, 7 fun Sarah facts..

1. I PULL MY HAIR OUT ~ Yep! I know, it sounds crazy, but I've done it for as long as I can remember. I can't stop. It's sort of like biting your nails, but not really. I do it when I'm bored, stressed, or nervous. There is an actual name for the disorder, it's called TRICHOTILLOMANIA. If anyone knows a cure for this yucky thing that I do, please let me know!!

2. I HATE CHEATERS~ I don't know what it is, but it's all that I have been hearing about lately, and I hate it!! Grow up people.. Get out of the situation before it gets to this point!

3. I'M A HOME BODY~ I like being home. I would rather be home than anywhere. Especially if my hubby and kids are with me.

4. I'M TERRIFIED OF DYING IN A CAR CRASH ~ I don't know why, but I am. I dream about it, and I fear it the whole time that I am in the car driving long distances.. yup, it sucks.. I think maybe I was killed in a car crash in a past life. Which brings me to fun fact number 5.

5. I'M FASCINATED BY REINCARNATION ~ I just finished ready a book about it, and now I am dedicated to learning more about it.. Call me a weirdo if you wish, but I think it's amazing.

6. MY FIRST CAR WAS A '98 VW BEETLE~ and I miss it every day. It was blue!

7. I SPEND EVERY DAY LOOKING AT HOUSES FOR SALE ~ All so that I can have my old neighbours be my new neighbours again.. I do! No word of a lie. It's ridiculous, but I won't stop until they're in at least walking distance again!! lol

Sorry! That's all I could come up with..

10 award worthy mommy bloggers??! Here we go...
Now, I know that some of you bloggers already have these awards, so if you have it, get over it and accept it. If not, congrats! I'm going to make this simple for all of you and let you pick whichever one you like best!
Congrats guys and Keep blogging!!

1. LISA @ THE OG'S

2. OPTIMISTIC MOM @ LIFE IS HARD, LAUGH ANYWAY

3. VINOBABY @ VINOBABY'S VOICE

4. NICOLE @ MOMFEVER

5.SARCASM IN ACTION @ MUSINGS OF A SARCASTIC MIND

6.THEA @ THE LINT TRAP

7.JOLENE @ LIFE AS I KNOW IT

8. GJT @ TOTALLY FULL OF IT

9. KARLEE @ WHO'S YOUR MOMMIE?

10. THE BRAINLESS HOUSEWIFE

So there you have it everyone!! I'm caught up! Be sure to check out all of these awesome blogs and I'll meet you back here tomorrow!
XO

Playing Catch Up......

Hi Ladies!!

I'm back from Ottawa, and I'm TIRED!!

I have been slacking in the blog department lately, so, I am taking today to catch up with some things. Responding to comments and accepting/acknowledging awards that I've been given are on the top of my list.
I feel so bad that I've neglected these things..

In the meantime, I know that I missed my Saturday Favourite this week, so I'm posting it today.

I know most of you may have already read it, as many of you already follow SHELL from THINGS I CAN'T SAY. For those of you that don't though, this is a must read post. A reminder than many of us need.
So,,, CLICK HERE to check out the post, and have fun reading through some of her other great posts while you' re there.

I'm hoping to get all caught up with everything today, and I'll be back tomorrow with a new post..

Have a great day ladies..
XO

FRIDAY FIVE

Another Friday!
Thank the Lord!
This week felt extra long to me. I'm not sure if that is because Peter was gone last weekend or because I'm so looking forward to driving to Ottawa to see our awesome friends this weekend.
Regardless... it was LONG!!!

What did I learn this week????

1. AS MUCH AS I LOVE TO HATE CAILLOU, HE REALLY IS MY BEST FRIEND!~ Nothing, and I mean NOTHING stops Gracie from talking. She even talks in her sleep. When Caillou comes on....SILENCE!!! The whole time he is on, she is quiet, in awe..
So, although I can hear his annoying, whiny voice, I can tune it out. I get one hour a day of silence!!

2. 10 lbs~ Yep, that is the disgusting amount of weight that I have put on this summer. I am making myself accountable right now. I vow to have it off by the end of September, and I know that I will. I think I can, I think I can.

3. I'M GOING STAY YOUNG FOREVER~ Laugh all you want, but I've been introduced to a new product from ISAGENIX. It's a scientific breakthrough! Watch an amazing video HERE, and if you want more info, click HERE!! Trust me, it's amazing.. and when I'm 50 and still looking and feeling 30, you'll wish you would have listened to me...hehehe

4. I LOVE MY SISTER~ Obviously I already knew that, but having her gone for 4 days last week showed me once again, that she should never go anywhere without me.. It felt like she was gone for a year..

5. ‎"HOLDING ON TO ANGER IS LIKE GRASPING A HOT COAL WITH THE INTENT OF THROWING IT AT SOMEONE ELSE; YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO GETS BURNED."
~BUDDHA ~ I read this quote and it really hit home.. It's so true and it is a quote that I will always try to remember.. I felt the need to share it..

Have a  great weekend everyone..
XO

WISH BOOK MEMORY

There are so many memories stored inside of us. Obviously we forget that we have some of them.

It wasn't until this morning that I was reminded of one of my favourite childhood memories.

Our SEARS CHRISTMAS WISH BOOK came yesterday. I browsed through it last night, starting my Christmas shopping in my head. (Don't let me fool you, I'll be shopping the week before, just like every other year... Queen procrastinator!)

I left the book open on the couch and went to bed. When Gracie came down this morning, she took her nosy little nose over to it, and started flipping.
The look of awe on her face was amazing.. Flipping through page after page of treasure after treasure.

While she was stopping me every two seconds to show me something she wanted, I remembered something that my mom let us do when we were kids.

She would give us a pen, and we all got to sit with the Wish Book and initial whatever we liked. Whatever we wanted Santa to bring to us. We could check of whatever we wanted but knew that we wouldn't get it all.

So... I sat Gracie at the kitchen table, (where she still is right now) and gave her a pen.
She was so excited that she got to sit and mark whatever she wanted. I remember being just as excited as her as I flipped those pages looking for the next best thing..

Gracie is different than I ever was. I flipped from front to back, marking EVERYTHING that I even sort of wanted.
Gracie has been flipping through, ever so calmly and really thinking about whether she wants it or not. She's decided a couple of times that although she would like something, she doesn't want it enough to mark the page. That to me is amazing for a 3 year old. (Am I allowed to say that?)lol


As she sat quietly, marking the pages, I sat drinking my coffee, enjoying every second of watching her.
Suddenly she jumped up with a big "MOMMY, LOOK AT THIS!".... I was already laughing imagining what this could be.. I was prepared to tell her to remember that Santa doesn't get everything thinking that it would be a big ticket item.
When she got to me, she said "I think that Sissy would love this, is it okay if I mark the pages for things that Lylah would like, so Santa gets her stuff too?"
My heart melted..

I've done something right! I must have! What 3 year old stops looking at toys that could be hers long enough to pick some out for her sister?
I am so proud of her!!

It didn't stop there! She continued to find items that she thinks Santa should bring Mommy and Daddy as well.. She found a beautiful necklace for me, and a watch for daddy..

It's only 9am, but it has already been a pretty neat morning in my house.
I love when I remember something so special from my childhood, and I love it even more when it's my kids that remind me.

Now.... if I can just teach Gracie how to mark the jewelry with the biggest diamonds, so that "SANTA" knows what mommy wants..

Have your kids reminded you of a great childhood memory?

Surprise Wedding

I just HAD to share this with everyone!

I apologize in advance to all of the husbands that are going to be hated tonight, but I had to share this to remind everyone that romance does still exist.. to the extreme in this case...

What a guy!!

This guy, from Windsor Ontario,secretly gathered details about his girlfriend's dream wedding, planned it and invited 200 guests without her knowing.
Check out the whole article here:

Enjoy, and get the tissue ready!



XO

NEED WINE

We went out to my parent's house today.

We planned on spending a fun morning by the river.. This is what we did.

Until.....

Imagine if you will.....

A Dog like this....(All 115lbs of him)

Dragging my 3 year old princess (All 30lbs of her)

About 5 feet, face first, over a pile of rocks on the river's edge....

This was immediately after. It looks like Bob wanted his daddy who had no idea why Gracie was crying.
That is why he was still taking photos..
Notice my niece with her hand up to her chest?! She shook for an hour after!!

Not a pretty site!

She is OKAY... Mommy, not so much! I still cry when talking about it..or thinking about it..

It really wasn't the dogs fault. 

We were all standing on the river's edge, waiting for my dad to find my nephews shoe that had been swept away.. 

For some reason unknown to me, Gracie decided to pick up Bob's leash. It must have been because he was just sitting there quietly, and she felt big by holding on to him.

Something caught Bob's attention (probably my dad) and he took off like a bat out of hell!!

He had no clue that little Gracie was holding on to his leash, and he probably couldn't even feel that he was dragging her.

Unfortunately, I saw the whole thing happen. Her little feet flew into the air, and her face smashed off the rocks, as the dog ran, her little head was bouncing off of each rock. She screamed, and she screamed.

It was like time stood still as I watched. A million things went through my head but my main thought was wondering how an ambulance was ever going to get to us, and how we would ever get help. There was no one around!

I screamed at her to let go of the leash. All of us were running towards her. She finally let go.

Another 2 feet or so, and she would have gone face first into the water.

All of this took place really quickly. I'm willing to bet that it was 20 or 30 seconds. It felt like minutes..

When I (finally) got over to her, I picked her up without looking at her. I was terrified to look at her face.

Her screams told me that she was in a lot of pain.

She grabbed a hold of me like she never has, and wailed.

She was covered in dirt and rocks, her shoes had been thrown off, and there was blood trickling from both nostrils.. 

That was it!!!!!

I don't know how, but she had all of her teeth, not one scratch on her face, and no broken bones. (well, I'm still not convinced that her nose isn't broken. It is at least twice as big as it should be!)

I am thanking her angels... you know, the ones she is always talking to and about?? 

That is the only explanation that I can find as to why Gracie's face was not completely torn apart..

So.. I'm going to have a glass of wine now.... 

I'm still checking on Gracie every hour or so, but she seems great. I can't believe it..

The thoughts of what could have have happened today are going to haunt me. The sight of my daughter being bounced off of rocks, face first will haunt me. I will never forget that site..

The other thing is has done, is reminded me how much I love my little girls and how much they mean to me..

I hugged them both a little tighter tonight, and will for days to come..

Today was just a reminder that in the blink of an eye, everything can change!
Now, go hug your kids!!

An Oldie....

I'm not going to lie.....

I'm in a Bloggin Rut!!!

I can't think of anything to write about, I really don't want to write, and for the first time ever, I really don't seem to care. Typically, I would get all stressed out about it, and lose sleep.. Right now, I'd rather just be soaking up the last few rays of sun that we'll see this summer.

I decided that instead of writing "Nothing" today, I would go back and pull out one of my older posts. One from the beginning when I only had 2 or 3 followers..

So, here we go!!!  Enjoy!!

Why don't they get it???!!

It's not easy being a mother.  If it were easy, fathers would do it.  ~From the television show The Golden Girls

It's funny, so many of the comments that I have received, whether on here or through private emails discuss "DADDY". 

So many of us wonder why they just "don't get it"? 

Get what??

EVERYTHING!!! 

I love my husband more than anyone in the world, that has never been an issue. Some days though, I catch myself wondering how in the world he ended up like this!!
I've thought about it a lot lately, and I think that what I have realized is that he hasn't changed a bit, he's always been this way. 

That is the problem!!! 

You see,, one of the things about "parenting" that bothers me the most is that our (mommies) lives change so much, so fast. 

Mens don't seem to change. Yes, I guess to a certain extent, they do, but not like ours!
I think that the easiest way to put all of this into words, is like this:


MY HUSBAND: still goes to the gym every day,still plays golf all summer, still meets the boys after work for drinks on Friday, still pees by himself, still showers by himself, still works on little projects in the garage, still manages to eat his whole dinner in peace, still gets to watch his UFC fights,still gets to have adult conversations every day,finishes work at 5pm,has weekends, gets holidays. I could go on and on.. just in case he reads this though, I better stop while I'm ahead! :)


ME: I can't even find 20 minutes for the stepper, I get dinner (not drinks) with the girls a few times a YEAR,I pee with the door open and usually with a child on my lap, never shower alone (and like one comment states,,, it's not like the good old days when it was our hubby in there) I find my biggest project figuring out how to keep my 1 year old in her high chair or how to make a bird out of Playdoh, I eat a forkful of food between getting a juice, catching flying food or wiping hands (OR putting my one year old back in her high chair), I read stories and answer the question "why?" about 100 times a day, I don't finish "work" until my head hits the pillow, I don't get weekends or holidays...or sick days!!


It's easy to feel sorry for yourself when you get going! 

But seriously, when was the last time that you got to read a magazine,,, like a WHOLE magazine or newspaper without being interrupted? Men just take theirs to the washroom and come out when it's done! Can you imagine what would happen if we did that??!


Again, I know that I shouldn't complain. 

This is what I have signed up for, this is what I wanted. 

I chose to not go back to work, I should be happy with this "deal".  (For those of you that work on top of being a mommy, I raise my glass to you, you must all be superwomen! Although, you DO get to pee by yourself!)lol

My hubby is great, I really can't complain. He does a lot of the groceries, a lot of the cooking and he usually even gets up on Saturday morning and makes breakfast and coffee before I'm up. He doesn't care that laundry isn't done or that the dishwasher STILL hasn't been emptied, but sometimes he says and does things that just really aren't SMART!

I think the best to date, is when he asked me "Why don't you have any patience for her?" 
Really??! I think that I saw red! YOU WANNA SEE PATIENCE??!!! lol
Why don't I have patience? Hmm,,, let me think.... Oh, I don't know, maybe because I'm on hour 12 of terrible two tantrums and a 1 year old climbing anything that she can! Or maybe because it's 6pm and I haven't had 2 seconds to myself today?? Maybe because I never sleep sound because my ears always seem to be turned on during the night "just in case"!! 

Is it just me, or was that a really DUMB thing to ask?!

I think him asking me that, was the day that I realized "they just don't get it". They don't get how tired we are, or what our days consist of, they don't get that maybe we'd just like a hug or a "Thanks for everything you do", a day at the spa, a dinner out.. They don't get that our lives have been turned upside down along with our hormones and our bodies. We should probably just throw our hands up in the air now and give in, because they JUST DON'T GET IT!!

My next question though, is, who's fault is it that they don't get it?

When you sit and really think about it, I think we're probably the ones to blame. (I might be in for an argument with that comment, right?)
We let them away with it! I know we don't control them, and they usually do what they want anyway, but I know for myself, I've never left him longer than a few hours with both kids. When I do go, I make sure that I have everything he needs ready. Snacks are ready, pjs are out, diapers and wipes are where he can see them, he doesn't have to bathe them...how much easier can I make it for him??
The smart thing to do, would be to walk out the door, and be on our way.. What's the worst that could happen, right?
We make things so easy for them, and then we complain that they have no clue! Duh,, maybe we're the dumb ones?! 
I'm usually such a grump by the time that I am walking out the door for a girls dinner. Simply because I've been running around for an hour doing everything that I can to make "parenting" simple for my husband! Who makes it simple for us?

Another thing that I am famous for, is rushing home. Why do we do that? My hubby says "go do what you have to do" (usually during nap time!) I get so excited! Awesome, a couple of hours to just go do what I HAVE to do! Groceries, drug store, maybe the mall.. 
After about 45minutes, the anxiety sets it. I better get home! What if one of them woke up? What if something is wrong, what if, what if, what if!!! And... there goes my time out,,, home I go to save my husband, who might I add, is always just fine! 

At the end of the day, how can we blame THEM?? We've created them!! I'm not the only one that has done this because I've talked to a lot of you that have admitted to doing all of the same things.
I wonder if we make them feel incapable when we do this? I think that I would be insulted if my husband thought that I couldn't handle things without him "holding my hand"... hmmm. maybe another blog topic?

I think that I should probably quit while I'm ahead, this subject could go on forever. I guess men probably will never "Get It", but in their defense,, if they don't have to, why would they?

GRATEFUL FOR... PHOTOGRAPHERS

It's Sunday, and I'm Grateful!!

Grateful that my hubby is home because one night away seemed like a lifetime, Grateful for the sun that has been shining all weekend, Grateful for the full bottle of Merlot staring at me right now and Grateful for leftover Beef Madras.

Most of all though, I am Grateful for people who have the amazing talent of capturing breathtaking photos.
I am grateful for my new found photographer Heather who took absolutely stunning photos of my girls..
They are photos that we will cherish forever!!!

Take a look and see for yourself why I am so Grateful!!

To view the rest of my Sneak Peaks, and learn more about the photographer,click here: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.265088606835901.77816.228728983805197