I received a comment after that post. A comment that I couldn't resist posting about.. and discussing..
That's a great post! so, so true. My mom made a comment last week that she couldn't understand why so many moms are complaining about how hard motherhood is. we never did that in my day, she claims. hm, really? Was it all the available drugs? because it seems to me you would have had to do the same stuff I do each day...and you Never found it hard? as a single mom - truly? But this post I think tells why....nobody bothered my mom when she was raising me. people minded their own business and let you do your thing. there were no play dates, or mommy clubs to breed competitiveness. no "tsk, tsk" over choices made. Her mom (my grandma) certainly wouldn't have interfered the way she can interfere with my children. And I think that is a huge difference in our society. Back then, you just tried your best and hoped for the best. But we, we are supposed to be so much enlightened and together. That's a lot of pressure for something that is essentially an on the job training position!
I was SO happy to hear that this, right here, is a NORMAL situation.
I don't know how many times, I've complained or made a point of saying something, only to hear "Oh you don't have to tell me about that, I had 3 of you, remember?"
Grr.... not really the response that I'm looking for when I'm having the kind of day that I want to commit myself to a mental institute.
I don't want to hear comments about how "back in the day, it was much tougher than it is today."
|It makes everyone else happy... Grrrrr...|
Would "they" feel different if they were to do it all over again in the society that we live in? Today?
Also, one minute they're saying that they never complained, and that they managed motherhood without complaining, but in the very next sentence, they're saying it was "tougher back then".....
I don't know about all of you, but if I have a moment (or 10) that I'm complaining, I'm not doing it for sympathy. I'm doing it because I need to vent. I need to get it off my chest.
OBVIOUSLY I know that everyone who has kids goes through the same things, obviously I know that it's hard for everyone, and it's not just me.. BUT.... at that very moment, that moment that I'm literally pulling my hair out and on the verge of tears, I feel alone.
I do feel like the only mother in the world who has ever wanted to run away, who has ever felt like the worst mother in the world. There are times that I feel like the only woman in the world who has had to deal with two toddlers having tantrums at the same time...
I'm not looking for sympathy, I just need to get it out.. Let me have my moment!! PLEASE!!
I'll be fine in a few minutes, but good lord, let me get it out, and please don't insult me while I'm doing it..
Comparing me or pointing out the obvious isn't going to make me feel better.
Maybe when other women do this, its the age old case of people "forgetting" what its really like to be in a situation.
Compare it to pregnancy. When you're going through those 9 months, it's hell.
Once the baby arrives, you say "that wasn't so bad, I could do it again."
We then become instant experts to all of the other pregnant women in the world..
Maybe when our kids are a little older and a lot easier, we'll look back at these days with a really distorted vision of what it was like and tell all new mothers to stop complaining, we went through the same thing, and that we never complained!! LOL
I don't know!! What is your opinion??
I'll be continuing my Family Matters subject tomorrow.. I want to talk about how we act/parent different when our families are around.. Oh yes, it's going to be a good one!