Lylah has still been having a lot of issues with her bowels and tummy..
Last week, we saw our family physician. Actually, we didn't see him, we saw his very arrogant "resident doctor". As I listed my concerns with Lylah, she pretty much laughed in my face..
No need to get into details, but she basically told me that, alternating constipation/diarrhea, daily tummy aches that cause tears, gas, excessive thirst and sleeping a lot are all quite normal for a 2 year old.
I ended up storming out of the office in tears stating that they were idiots.. (oops!)
Later that day, they called and said that they were arranging for a follow up with a pediatrician.
I was happy. Don't get excited, happiness didn't last long.
Yesterday, we met with the pediatrician.. Actually, we didn't see him, we saw his very arrogant "resident doctor". (sound familiar?)
Again, as I listed my concerns with Lylah, she smirked and looked at me like I was an idiot.
Again, she stated that "all of these things are quite normal".
I want to share with you what she "thinks"...
Lylah won't eat because: I give her too much to drink. She's filling up on drinks.
Lylah isn't thirsty all the time: she's just used to having drinks.
Lylah is constipated because: I am not giving her proper meals.
Lylah doesn't really have diarrhea on those alternating days: it is, in fact a back up from the constipation that oozes out.. (Even though it can fill a diaper and go right up her back,, it's just backup.. sure!)
Lylah has dark circles under her eyes because: she has environmental allergies and unfortunately she'll just have to live with that..
Lylah pees excessive amounts because: I give her way too much to drink.
So.. my appointment then turned into a parenting 101 class, taught by some idiot doctor who doesn't even have children (I asked!) Apparently her text books have more knowledge than a mother's instinct or experience.
So. here are her recommendations..
I should make my children sit at the table for no less than 20 minutes, If she doesn't eat her dinner, she gets (get this) NOTHING to eat or drink for the rest of the night.
I shouldn't give my children a drink with their meals. Food only.
I should only be giving my children one or two drinks A DAY. It should only be water, milk or diluted fruit juice.
Children shouldn't be able to have a drink available to them at all times..
She then told me that I really need to figure my daughters diet out because she's in the 10th percentile for her weight. She stated that this "concerned" her and she was a little worried about undernourishment.
I don't know if you as mothers would feel the same way as I did while sitting in that office, but I felt like someone was repeatedly kicking me in the gut.
I felt like these doctors were looking at me, thinking that I'm not feeding my daughter and that I'm not doing a good job as a mother. That the reason my daughter is having health problems is because of things that I am or am not doing.
It was horrifying, and it was definitely on the top 5 list for worst moments of my life.
I have never felt so discouraged and "little" in all my life.
So, now I have a 2 year old who weighs 22lbs, has constant diarrhea/constipation, constant belly aches, dark under eye circles, gas, and no one who wants to help her..
On top of that, it looks like she's got a mommy who isn't taking very good care of her at all...
I've decided that I'm pretty much done with "physicians"...
I've also decided that as a "bad mommy" I am not prepared to accept any of these issues as NORMAL. I am not going to accept that my daughter doesn't feel good every day, and I'm not going to sit back and let the doctors fluff it off because they really have no clue what it might be.
I am now looking into finding some natural practitioners, food allergists etc. that can give insight.
In the meantime, I'm interested in hearing any suggestions or input that any of you might have.. Any personal experiences or advice would be appreciated..
Thanks in advance..